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Restore your marriage in as little as 2 days

Christian Marriage Counsellor, Erika Botha, guides couples in crisis to resolve their issues with her private intensive 2-day emergency program.

Transform Your Marriage in 2 Days

Over a 2-day intensive in person counselling retreat, I will guide you through the necessary steps to break down the barriers that are preventing you from having the marriage of your dreams.

  • Reconnect and experience emotional and sexual intimacy again.
  • Discover and practice new techniques for interacting with your spouse that capitalize on your individual strengths and weaknesses.
  • Confront and overcome your not-so-beneficial personality traits, like jealousy, anger, narcissism, self-righteousness, selfishness, and poor self-image and self-esteem. 
  • Master vital skills like effective communication (including listening), conflict management, how to check your perception, learning forgiveness, and more. 

Hi, I'm Erika

For almost 20 years I have been providing Christian marriage counselling and coaching to couples who have faced every challenge possible, be it infidelity, illness, trauma, financial stressors, or simply just not getting along. 

My motivation is knowing that intense, pure love is at the heart of each and every one of those relationships and that by making simple changes and following a few Biblical principles, love can be restored to greatness and made even better than before.

Dreams do come true. I know this, I’ve seen it happen with my clients, and I’ve made it happen for myself.

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What People say

Mia

Erika got our relationship back on track. She taught us how to communicate properly and she helped us sort through our problems in a loving way. This was a great retreat. I will definitely recommend her. Thank you Erika.

Denis

Erika was very helpful in figuring out what we needed as a couple to have a better stronger relationship.

Sophie

Erika is a very kind hearted, but to the point person, with wisdom & experience beyond her years. Every single cent & second spent was worth it double.

Jenna

Erika was very professional and kind. Listened and knew what our problems were and gave us proper advice to help our future together.

Jocelyn

Erika has shown us a great plan for the future, she has given us taste to complete as well as plans to keep us accountable.

Agnes

Because of Erika and her coaching, we are once more excited for our future together as husband and wife.

Ted

I was very impressed with her results and information. I'm very pleased with our weekend session. Thank you.

Gary

Erika really does care about you, and only wants what's best for the both of us. She has so many tools that helped us grow as a couple.

Jennet

Only after a few sessions with Erika it was evident that our marriage was saveable and we only needed the guidance of a professional, teaching us the correct tools to communicate our feelings, wants and needs better.

The Struggle Is Real, But It’s Not Forever.

It’s normal for your marriage to evolve over time, but that doesn’t mean it has to lose its intimacy and spark. If any of the following sound familiar to you, let’s talk, I can help.

You are experiencing...

  • No longer feeling close or like you have a common goal
  • Going to bed angry or sleeping in separate bedrooms
  • Lack of interest in physical intimacy
  • Feeling anxious or like you’re constantly on edge
  • Being left out (or leaving your spouse out) of important life decisions, such as buying a car or changing careers
  • Having the same argument over and over, or the argument emerging in different forms
  • Chronic stressors, like infertility, illness, relocation, or parenting challenges
  • A traumatic event, like a job loss, sick child, etc
  • Substance misuse and poor coping strategies
  • A serious breach of trust, like an emotional or sexual affair, and you are wondering how to move forward
  • Feelings of bitterness and resentment about past hurts
  • No longer sharing your life dreams or goals with each other
  • Wishing for the ways things used to be
  • Wondering when you will feel joy again

You are feeling...

  • Depressed
  • Alone
  • Worried
  • Irritated
  • Jealous
  • Exhausted
  • Sad
  • Overwhelmed
  • Guilty
  • Stressed
  • Angry

Restoring Your Marriage Is Easier Than You Think

Join me on an intensive 2-day Couples Counselling Retreat. We will take a journey together as I help you and your spouse heal emotionally, resolve your conflicts, learn how to strategically optimize your individual strengths and weaknesses, master vital relationship skills, and restore your marriage to magic.

You’re busy, tired, and need permanent results ASAP. This is why I have designed my program to be private, intensive, and to provide sustainable results. Over 2-days, this online private retreat is reserved for you and your spouse only. For two days, I will focus on nothing but transforming your relationship so that you live in love, joy, and peace again.

Erika will counsel and coach you throughout these two days so that you can resolve all your marital issues and fix them once and for all.

Master Every Must-Have Skill For A Lifetime of Marital Bliss…

  • Communication techniques for building intimacy and strong connections. 
  • How to better regulate your emotions and reactions and to understand how these affect not just your marriage, but your life, in general.
  • What you and your spouse’s personality types are and how to capitalize on these traits to strengthen your relationship.
  • Identify and understand your love language and how to best meet your partner’s wants and needs.
  • How to heal from the past hurts, how and why it is critical to forgive to productively move forward together.
  • Techniques to heal from traumatic childhood experiences so that they will no longer negatively affect your marriage.
  • A variety of other valuable resources and tools will be available and customized for your marriage’s unique needs.

Erika Botha’s Couples Counselling Retreats offer unconditional acceptance and provide you and your spouse with a safe, judgement-free space to encourage you to be as open and vulnerable as you feel comfortable.

With a focus on your future together, we will revisit your past to learn acceptance and forgiveness and leave past hurts and betrayals exactly where they belong. As you move forward together through the present and into the future, you will be given every tool you need to continue together towards a lifetime of happiness.

Backed by extensive education, specialized training, and over 20 years of experience successfully helping couples heal and strengthen their relationships, I have complete confidence that I can help you transform your marriage from something that is filled with hurt, loneliness, and frustration, to something beautiful, full of love, understanding, and joy.

You can have it all in two days

Imagine a relationship that is filled with

  love, understanding and joy. Not hurt and frustration.

What People say

Marcelles

If you are looking for a kind, caring, smart, brilliant, and encouraging coach, then look no further.  She is the best.  Thanks, Erika, for everything

Lee

To My Dear Wife:

... I'm so glad that we are working with Erika to strengthen our relationship. What a loss it would be to lose you ...

Diana

I'm excited about my future and I hope to continue to work with Erika. I enjoy Erika’s refreshing, uplifting and encouraging personality while she is busy-fine tuning my life.

This is how it works

Stage 1 - communication workshop

Communication can make or break any relationship. While conflict is inevitable in any marriage, conflicts based on miscommunications and misunderstandings are avoidable. 

Improving communication skills is one of the quickest and easiest ways to repair a relationship, but it can also be very challenging, as it involves truly altering how we approach others and how we perceive the world. Often, we carry unconscious biases that build barriers to understanding - let's tear those down. 

Using my signature program, we will discover your and your spouse’s unique communication styles and how these can help and hinder your marriage. Next, you will learn the best techniques to communicate effectively with your partner so that they feel heard, understood, and validated. 

You will be provided with a precise blueprint for effective communication, tailored to your unique needs. As you build enhanced communication skills, you will not only resolve past conflicts and be better able to move towards the path of forgiveness, but you will also be equipped to manage any future conflicts that may arise.

After this stage is complete, you will...

  • Have an enhanced understanding of yourself and your partner.
  • Know the best ways to communicate your thoughts and feelings to your partner and how to best respond to theirs.
  • Know the best ways to communicate your thoughts and feelings to your partner and how to best respond to theirs.
  • Be less anxious, on-edge, frustrated, and lonely.
  • Be able to leave the past in the past and effectively manage and limit future conflict.
  • Have the skills needed to create a healthy environment for your family and help prevent intergenerational trauma.
  • Know how to avoid misunderstandings and miscommunications.
  • No longer fear or dread conflict, but rather view it as an opportunity for growth.
  • Foster emotional closeness, intimacy, trust, and strengthen your relationship.
  • Experience the joy of open and honest communication.
  • Feel the sparks of falling in love again.

Stage 2 - Individual counselling

In a good marriage, the goal is to become greater than the sum of its parts, that is, to become the absolute best version of ourselves so that our marriage is even better than the we can be as individuals. Oftentimes, we can lose a bit of our individuality throughout our relationships, leading to uncomfortable feelings, like resentment and loneliness. Some of us may also carry heavy burdens of past traumas and hurts as far back as childhood. Left unresolved, these can prevent us from living our best lives. 

Through private, one-on-one individual sessions, I will explore you as an individual and provide the tools you need to heal past wounds, empowering your to bring your best selves to the marriage. 

We will explore any significant past events that are negatively impacting your life and your marriage. We will then practice strategies to build acceptance of these events and skills to prevent them from impacting your marriage. 

The goal of these sessions is to celebrate who you are as individuals, to acknowledge the role you, as an individual, play in your relationship, and to focus on making sustainable, positive changes to strengthen your marriage.

After this stage, you can expect to...

  • Understand how previous painful events, including those occurring in childhood, can impact your marriage.
  • Know your personality type so that you can celebrate your positive traits and take steps to remediate your weaknesses.
  • Learn your role in your relationship and how you can best contribute to this partnership for maximum effect.
  • Become inspired to pursue self-improvement to help create the incredible future you will have together.
  • That your children or family members will be happier, as they now get to experience the best you have to offer, without the shadows of yesterday’s pains.

Stage 3 - Couples counselling

Now that I have a clear understanding of your marriage, you as individuals, and any outstanding issues or pain points in your relationship, I will provide a neutral analysis and prioritization of goals - let's fix the most important now and give you the skills to address the less-important later.

In this stage, I will...

  • Identify and explain the internal and external factors causing issues in your marriage, even those you may not yet consider to be relevant.
  • Work with you to resolve conflicts and move on from the past before starting the reconciliation process.
  • Encourage you to have open and honest communication with each other by gently guiding the conversation and lifting barriers to communication.
  • Be your guide as your move through the process of healing and reconciliation.

After this stage, you will resolve issues such as:

  • Poor communication
  • Sexual problems and barriers to intimacy
  • Unconscious biases and faulty assumptions
  • Not honoring your individuality and the incredible ways it can bring joy and strength to your marriage
  • Financial stresses
  • Infidelity and breaches of trust
  • Parenting disagreements
  • Disagreements stemming from third parties, like relatives' interference in your relationship
  • Unresolved conflicts or old arguments that keep appearing in new ways
  • Feelings of loneliness or of being unseen in the relationship
  • Growing apart in the mariage, instead of together

Stage 4 - The Future

This is it. You have achieved your dreams. It's real and standing right before you.

Your marriage is full of unbounded love. You have found the intimacy that you have always craved, but never thought possible.

It will be unlike anything you have ever experienced. Your marriage will be solid, built firmly on a foundation of understanding, respect, kindness, acceptance, and unconditional love.

You no longer wish for an amazing marriage - you have it, and you will have it forever.

With a clear vision and action plan for the future, each facet of your marriage will strengthen and move in the right direction:

  • Emotionally
  • Financially
  • Sexually
  • Parenting Cohesively As A Unit

After this stage, you can expect to…

  • Enjoy restored trust.
  • Leave behind needless selfish, narcissistic, jealous, or self-interested tendencies.
  • Avoid common pitfalls and dysfunctional dynamics.
  • Communicate in an open and honest way.
  • Stop finger-pointing and blame.
  • Truly understand your spouse’s personality and their deepest desires and needs.
  • Practice making decisions that will benefit your relationship.
  • Nurture compassion for yourself and your partner.
  • Feel more connected and have more FUN together.
  • Enjoy the ecstacy of unbounded intimacy.
  • Enjoy the safety and security of knowing your marriage is forever.
  • Experience a love that is profoundly deep, exhilarating, and beautiful.

Imagine, this could be you in only 2 days…

  • Your relationship is now your safe-haven because you've learned to honour and treat each other with understanding, love and respect.
  • You talk to your partner till dawn because the connection between you has never been more profound or fulfilling. You feel like you’re getting to know them all over again, in the best possible way.
  • You enjoy a safe and liberating space in which both of you feel welcome at all times.
  • You are laughing and having the time of your life because now your spouse is truly your best friend.
  • During times of conflict and differences you overcome your struggles and stay loyal to each other instead of falling apart.
  • Best of all, your love grows stronger and more ecstatic with each passing moment.

Understanding Your Investment With Erika Botha’s Couples Counselling

First, you will get...

2-Day Intense Online Marriage Retreat

Erika Botha’s proven program is delivered via secure video conference which includes personalised, private, one-on-one counselling, workshopping, and coaching.

While the program is designed to be completed in 2 days, it can also be completed over an extended period of time, if desired. In-person services are by request and an additional travel fee may apply.


Then, I will provide...

30-day email & messaging support

Oftentimes, the best questions come after a couple has had some time to practice their new skills and enjoy their reinvigorated marriage. That's why I am proud to offer 30 days of email and messaging support to ensure that all of your questions are answered and issues are addressed, even if you only think of them after the retreat is complete.


But, that's not everything..

1 hour of follow-up relationship coaching

Consistency and momentum is key when it comes to relationship restoration. After you’ve had some time to experience your marriage with your new skills and understanding, let’s follow-up and see where you are at and if you need any direction to move forward into your happily-ever-after.

100% Money Back Satisfaction Guaranteed

...AND THERE ARE SOME BONUSES!

Bonus 1

Erika's Signature 4-week Communication course

Most people struggle with communication, it can be hard, especially as we all have our own set of biases and assumptions that guide our perceptions. As we know, poor communication is one of the quickest paths to conflict.

This course will help you master the skills needed to communicate effectively with your spouse and in a way that always makes each of you feel respected, heard, and understood.

Valued At $1,000

Bonus 2

Communication course workbook

As they say, practice makes perfect. Continue to refine and perfect your communication skills by working through a series of exercises that encourage thoughtful and productive communication with your partner. Learn about each other and how you interact as you watch your marriage grow stronger by the day.

Valued At $25

Bonus 3

Detailed evaluation of your marriage

Explore the nuances of your relationship with a comprehensive relationship assessment and needs analysis.

Through individual counselling and interviews, as well as a thorough examination of your marriage as a whole, I will provide a neutral assessment of the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship, the roles you play as individuals, and where attention is most urgently needed.

You will be given a clear vision of the best steps forward and the tools needed to create the relationship of your dream. 

Valued At $1,000

Bonus 4

Personality Assessment and Interpersonal Analysis

You and your spouse are both completely individual people outside of your marriage. Let’s celebrate that and explore what makes each of you who you are with a thorough assessment of your personality types and analysis of how these traits can be optimized to strengthen your marriage.

Valued At $1,000

Bonus 5

Five Love language analysis and Course

There are 5 general ways that people express and experience love in a romantic relationship, which are not necessarily obvious.

Failing to recognize these differences can result in feelings of hurt or resentment, despite actions coming from a place of deep love.

I will administer an assessment and provide analysis so that you both gain a better understanding of each other's expressions of love.

Valued At $500

Bonus 6

Blueprint for Sustainable Success

Maximize your success with a concrete action plan to guide your marriage into the future.

Goals that are not written down are wishes, and while wishes can often come true, it's more likely that you will achieve your dreams by prioritizing your marriage and consistently checking in to make sure it's staying on track. That way, you’ll be prepared to meet any challenge and strengthen your marriage in the process.

Valued At $1,000

Bonus 7

YOU+ME=US: Be Happy Together Forever, book by Erika Botha

It's important to remember that you are not alone in your marriage difficulties, these events are common. I experienced them myself, and I know how challenging it can be on a personal level, but I also know how intensely rewarding it can be to restore and repair your marriage. Let me inspire you with my personal story, from the brink of divorce to the happiest marriage that I ever thought possible.

Valued At $25

Bonus 8

The 21-Day journal to spoil your partner and create memorable experiences

Celebrate your spouse and your love with this journal to help you create new memories and strengthen your relationship. Everyday can be an exciting adventure full of fun and love, and you get to do it all with your best friend.

Valued At $10

Bonus 9

The 21-Day Journal of Interesting Questions to Get To Know Your Spouse Better

Enhance your emotional bonds and learn even more about your spouse with this book of thought-provoking questions that will provide new insights into the person you fell in love with. Whether you’ve been together for only a short while or a lifetime, there is nothing quite like the feeling of learning something new about your loved one.

Valued At $10

The total value of the bonuses alone is $4,570

but you can get it all for just

$4,997

Live the marriage of your dream, forever.

Your happy marriage is so worth it.

100% money back Satisfaction Guaranteed

I know you will leave my program satisfied, so I have a 100% money-back satisfaction guarantee. There’s nothing to lose but everything to gain. Let’s connect.

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