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Scores in this range indicate a level of complacency with having a good but not great marriage. It’s not bad, but you’re not exactly beaming with joy either. Perhaps you find yourself often subtly annoyed by your spouse’s actions, or maybe you feel like you’re putting more into the marriage than your spouse. Or maybe, you’ve both just become okay with being just okay. You love and respect each other, but the more time goes one, the more it feels like you’re living parallel lives, instead of intersecting. The intimacy you once felt has started to diminish, the spark you once had has now calmed to a slow-burning ember. It’s still warm and inviting, but leaves you wanting more.
Often, the start of this disconnect corresponds to an increase in conflict, as you both find yourself on very different pages of the same book. With the lack of connection comes a lack of genuine communication, precipitating the cycle and exacerbating it on each rotation.
Many couples live like this and stay married for years, but think - is this what you really envisioned when you first got married? Is this the life you dreamed of? Do you accept an okay marriage with issues that genuinely upset you because it's comfortable, or because you are truly happy?
What you are going through is common, but it doesn’t mean it has to be like this. The majority of marriages fall into this range. But don’t forget - the majority of marriages also end in divorce - so the time for action is now, especially while you are still enjoying many positive aspects and healthy behaviours in your relationship.
Coaching or counselling is highly recommended to get your marriage back on the track to success and to provide you with the tools you need to sustain your happily-ever-after.
Transform Your Marriage in 2 Days
Over a 2-day intensive online counselling retreat, I will guide you through the necessary steps to break down the barriers that are preventing you from having the marriage of your dreams.
- Reconnect and experience emotional and sexual intimacy again.
- Discover and practice new techniques for interacting with your spouse that capitalize on your individual strengths and weaknesses.
- Confront and overcome your not-so-beneficial personality traits, like jealousy, anger, narcissism, self-righteousness, selfishness, and poor self-image and self-esteem.
- Master vital skills like effective communication (including listening), conflict management, how to check your perception, learning forgiveness, and more.
Hi, I'm Erika
For over 20 years I have been providing relationship coaching and counselling to couples who have faced every challenge possible, be it infidelity, illness, trauma, financial stressors, or simply just not getting along. My motivation is knowing that intense, pure love is at the heart of each and every one of those relationships and that by making simple changes and following a few guiding principles, love can be restored to greatness and made even better than before. Dreams do come true. I know this, I’ve seen it happen with my clients, and I’ve made it happen for myself.
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